Interfere with fitnessMy girlfriend always thought lightly about her way of life. But I started to go in for sports, and Ostap suffered. She increasingly goes to training and makes them more intense. Practically does not eat "harmful food" (which includes almost all products), began to resemble a "muscle" death. And most importantly, she can not talk about anything other than HLS and sports, and sincerely considers her body far from perfect. Doctor, with whom is the problem? With her or with me?
Natalia, 28 years old, designer
|Fitness: From Love To Hate|
- A tendency to strong hobbies can be just a feature of a person's character, or maybe a form of psychological defense. Agree, unrestrained, almost manic return to some cause is a good way to escape from the painful experiences that the psyche avoids for various reasons . And sports and ideas about a healthy way of life can not be better suited for these purposes.
Firstly, after a good training of forces, nothing remains. Secondly, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, as a system, involves a high concentration of attention. And - voila! - consciousness and energy are completely occupied. Moreover, they are absorbed in socially approved activities, that no one will notice a dirty trick. What happens to your girlfriend - it remains only to guess and hope that her concern for her own appearance is far from the symptoms of a mental disorder. For example, dysmorphophobia, when a person is overly concerned about defects in his body.
Another question, what happens to you, when you look at a friend from the side? Why do you think that something is wrong with you? Apparently, sports and a healthy lifestyle are not empty words for you, but sometimes you doubt: do you devote enough time and energy to training? It is important to remember that you are the only and unique in itself, which means that your relationships with sport and a healthy lifestyle are just yours. Listen to your feelings and needs, rely on them, refer to the recommendations of experts who have absolutely no task to drive you to a mental disorder, but certainly there is a desire to help you become stronger and more confident.
If the sport is unsuccessfulI decently recovered after the operation and I want to put myself in order. But something does not come out. I used to have two or three hours of sport a week to get the desired form. Now everything is not so. I've been watching myself for half a year, but there are almost no results. It makes me break, drop my hands. I can not get into the rut, the sport starts to irritate. What to do?
Margarita, 34 years old, PR
"Throughout life, we are confronted with situations that change us. And these changes can be irreversible. Sometimes we are talking about happy events, for example, the birth of a child. Sometimes - about stressful: operations and illnesses. And, of course, we all meet with growing up. We need to understand: we are changing not only in the social plan, but also, first of all, in our own body. We become different right up to the peculiarities of the course of physiological processes.
Is it a reason to be sad and prepare for the worst? I do not think: after all, at one time changes in physiology made us beautiful women with beautiful forms. So it's better to breathe out and get ready for a few tasks. To begin with, you need to accept changes. Say: yes, now I'm different. And this requires other accents and landmarks. The old, most likely, will only be a source of unnecessary irritation. Set new goals and revise the scales by which you measure achievements. Make friends with reality - instead of taking offense at it, accept the new rules of the game. You deserve great respect for not being deformed, but continuing training, despite the previous stressful situation. You do not change yourself - this is an occasion for pride.
I believe that you know the moments of despair and longing when you want to quit everything. You have every right to them. But in order to get out of these complex feelings and continue to move on, find yourself a support group. Turn to the family, friends who believe in you and love in any state. Communicate with those who have behind them a positive experience of passing such a situation. You can also meet with experts in the field of psychology, if you feel that you can not cope. It is important to remember: changes do not make us worse. They give rise to special attention, to get acquainted with a new self and, of course, make friends.